I’m a Supernatural fan…no I won’t tell if I’m Team Dean or Team Sam. That being said I knew I had seen ‘Bobby’ somewhere before, portrayed by actor Jim Beaver, so I did what everyone else does and began a search and that is how I found out he had wrote this book!
It’s a newsletter turned memoir of a heartbreaking true story of something Jim had gone through, watching his spouse dying of lung cancer. It is a tribute, in my eyes, to overcoming a saddening situation. I learned a lot about Jim Beaver I didn’t know before through this memoir and came out, in the end, having a newfound respect for him. I also got to ‘meet’ his wife through this read and let me say she’s one strong and courageous woman.
A remarkable memoir that shows the capacity of the human heart to heal after the challenge of having to say goodbye.
Even the hardest lessons contain great gifts.
Jim Beaver and his wife Cecily Adams appeared to have it all-following years of fertility treatments, they were finally parents and they were building their dream home and successful Hollywood careers. Life was good. But then their daughter, Maddie, was diagnosed as autistic. Weeks later, Cecily, a non-smoker, was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. Sadly, after 14 years of marriage, Jim became a widower and a single dad.
Faced with overwhelming grief, Jim reached out to family and friends by writing a nightly email-a habit he established when Cecily was first diagnosed. Initially a cathartic exercise for Jim, the prose became an unforgettable journey for his readers. Life’s That Way is a compilation of those profound, compelling emails.
I read this book in high school. I wasn’t sure when I found it was I was even looking for. I remember thinking this book was odd on the shelf of a high school beyond it being about a teenager. I was even more surprised after I checked it out to find it described drug use in a raw and scary way, but after that I found this book to be truly heartbreaking.
It doesn’t promote drug use by any means. It’s a crushing story about drug use. This is a book I’ve read online described as a 90’s kids version of Go Ask Alice. It’s definitely worth a read.
I felt the prick of the needle, but only for a second, because this great rush of warmth quickly followed, encompassing my whole body from my toes right up to the top hair on my head. I couldn’t move for a minute as she guided the needle in and out of my vein. When she was done, I felt like I had entered heaven. I looked in the mirror and felt beautiful and confident. I felt this great peace, at last, a warmth, and I knew that everything was going to be okay–and really always had been. Like time had stopped and I was floating on a cloud.
“Writing the book, I saw my old dope dealer and bought $1,500 worth of pure heroin–Brown Gold–and started shooting up ten times a day to get the feel of the book. Well, I did, all right. I ended up in Glen Cove General, almost dead. In truth, you make a deal with the Devil. He takes away your pain, but he owns you. You live for the next fix. After a while, it’s totally physical; your body has to have it. But I’m off it for good.”
— Linda Glovach
I decided for the month of February that I would suggest some recommendations. Long ago I ate books. Over the years, this appetite has slowed down but is still there. It’s a common question in interviews, ‘What do you read?’ I’ve answered many things over my career, some the same answer sometimes changing it up, but always having something.
So all month long, for February, every day there will be a new recommendation for a book I’ve actually read. You might be surprised to see some of the items listed and probably some very common finds. What does a horror writer read? Anything like everyone else!
Another note on these posts, I tell a bit about how the book came into my world, sharing a personal story with every post. The covers I post…I tried very hard to find covers that are either the exact same of the copy I have or something similar. This begs the question, why not just take a picture of your own copy? I am not the best photographer, check any social media of mine, and I wanted something very clear for this blog project.
February is a month that also recognizes Women in Horror. I have in some shape or form participated in this for the past several years. This is another project I have done for this month.
Check out these two Women in Horror Month activities:
Horror Tree: Purging Method
Dirty Little Horror Website